EQUABLE PARENTAL RIGHTS vs BEHAVOURAL MODIFICATION an observation

EQUABLE PARENTAL RIGHTS vs BEHAVOURAL MODIFICATION an observation

‘To modify behavior, good behavior must be reinforced and poor behavior must be punished. The fundamentals of behavior modification can be used to increase desired behaviors in any individual, regardless of functional level. For example, an individual who wants to quit smoking cigarettes, or a parent who wants her child to consistently make the bed, may use behavioral techniques to help achieve those goals.’

THE WAY FAMILY COURT WORKS fastrack

The 10 stages of applying for custody guardianship access through the family in-camera judicial system.

First you will stand alone in court wholly ignored.
Second you will be told to sit down and to keep quite.
Third muttering will be heard then an adjournment will be announced.
Fourth a local ‘social workers’ report is ordered re: your suitability as an ex-partner. Not as you will ‘think’ your suitability as an equal parent.
Fifth you will be ordered to come back in three months and attend an anger management course for your own good.
Sixth you will attend the ‘local’ court-approved* Neuro-Linguistic Programming Hypnotist.
Seven you will receive a tummy-tickle for good behaviour and not be given a reach around for bad behaviour.
Eight your so-called psychological report will be read out in court three months later.
Nine everyone will burst out sniggering oblivious you will listen intently to this quasi-psychological jargon all the while observing the ‘what did I tell you look’ on your X’s face.
Ten you will be told to come back in three months.    

See Change Practice* Coaching versus Counseling

Counseling pays a lot of attention to a perceived ‘problem’ in a person’s life and focuses on the effect of the past on the present – on the event which has caused you to feel the way you do about yourself and life at present and about resolving your feelings with the tragedy or trauma. Coaching differs from counseling in that the focus is more on finding solutions, the here and now and on the future rather than dwelling on the past. Because of this goals and behavioural patterns tend to come more under the spotlight. Also, in coaching there is a more equal balance of power between the coach and their client than would appear usual in a patient/therapist relationship.

Many coaches, including ourselves use NLP to assist their clients make the changes they desire. Neuro-Linguistic Programming provides a tool-box of techniques which enable people to make these changes easily and rapidly.

Maurice Kelly and Berni McGuill (See Change Partners) are accredited Family Mediators (Friarylaw), certified CMA Life Coaches and NLP Master Practitioners (Certified by Dr. Richard Bandler)* with backgrounds in Sport and Social Care respectively.

Dr. Richard Bandler* "The effectiveness of my Strategic Mind Messaging™ sessions increases significantly when combined with the augmented light and sound technology of BrainFit.

Richard Bandler, co-developer of NLP, also known as Neuro-Linguistic Programming, conducts NLP seminars, NLP workshops, and NLP training seminars internationally. He continually develops new human change technologies.

Richard Bandler's seminars & workshops include Neuro-Hypnotic Repatterning™, Design Human Engineering®, Persuasion Engineering®, Personal Enhancement, Charisma Enhancement®, Hypnosis, and others.

Description

Neurolinguistic programming (NLP) is aimed at enhancing the healing process by changing the conscious and subconscious beliefs of patients about themselves, their illnesses, and the world. These limiting beliefs are "reprogrammed" using a variety of techniques drawn from other disciplines including hypnotherapy and psychotherapy.

Origins

NLP was originally developed during the early 1970s by linguistics professor John Grinder and psychology and mathematics student Richard Bandler, both of the University of California at Santa Cruz. Studying the well-known psychotherapist Virginia Satir, the hypnotherapist Milton Erickson, the anthropologist Gregory Bateson, and others whom they considered "charismatic superstars" in their fields, Grinder and Bandler identified psychological, linguistic and behavioral characteristics that they said contributed to the greatness of these individuals.

Research and general acceptance

Although some physicians and mental health practitioners employ principles of neurolinguistic programming, the field is generally considered outside of mainstream medical practice and academic thinking.

Precautions

NLP is particularly popular in the self-improvement and career-development fields, and some trainers and practitioners have little experience in its use for healing.

Neurolinguistic programming,

A complementary therapeutic strategy based on the premise that thought is a representation of sensory experience and that behavior can be modified to achieve a desired result by changing the patient's thought patterns and mental strategies to give the patient more choices in problem solving. It is used for behavior modification and the management of psychosomatic disorders and stress.

Mosby's Medical Dictionary, 8th edition. © 2009, Elsevier.

© Various electronic sources

© Séafra Ó Ceallaigh an observation 2012

Dr. Richard Bandler Co-Founder of Neuro-Linguistic Programming

Maurice Kelly and Berni McGuill See Change Partners